Surviving the Fires
In the world of adoption, some professionals seem to have made a goal of minimizing birth parents’ pain, handling them with kid gloves in deference to the difficulty of the choices they face. Unfortunately, this concern too often translates into patronizing and "protective" behavior that results in dis-empowerment for the birth parent.
Adoption and Loss - The Hidden Grief
From a presentation in Toronto, Evelyn Robinson, author of the book by the same name, explores the grief attached to losing a child through adoption and the many issues that encompasses.
Recognizing the grief of loss is the first step on the road to healing. Recommended reading for all triad members, by Brenda Romanchik.
Impact of the Birthmother Experience
For birthmothers, coming to terms with the loss of a child through adoption can be a lifetime journey, by Donna Putuesi.
Birth Parent Loss and Grief
Coming to terms with loss and grief is an individual process of regaining control over events in our lives; by Patricia Roles.
Seven core issues affecting all members of the adoption experience, by Deborah Silverstein and Sharon Kaplan Roszia.
No More Guilt, No More Grief
Mary Block, a birthmother who placed in the 1970s, writes eloquently about surviving the closed adoption system.
Out of the Shadows, Into Our Lives
"By the time her delivery date was approaching, she had been tortured into submission by the people who loved her most and by a society that didn't understand her at all."
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